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As of 04/22/2005 I went off the market. I ponied up the money, bought the ring and made my proposal. It didn't go over like the movie-like proposal I was hoping for, but it still got the job done. It went a little something like this...

We had already talked about getting engaged. I had asked her daughter for her blessing. The fact that I was going to ask was well known but WHEN I was going to ask was only known to me. She would occasionally go looking at rings and on the 22nd of April she found one she really liked. After work she wanted me to go look at it, but I didn't want to buy the ring when she was with me. That would ruin the last bit of surprise I had left. Telling her that I didn't want to go see the ring made her either think I was dragging my feet or that it was going to be another three years before I actually bought the ring. Generally speaking, this put her in somewhat of a bad mood.

When we got home, I got a call from work. Now, my job requires that I'm always on call and occasionally get called back into work. The call I got was not really that big of an emergency but she didn't know that. I fussed around for a while and finally told her I had to go to work. She seemed sad about that as well but there was nothing we can do about me having to go to work and she understood that.

I hopped into my car and drove straight to the jeweler that had the ring she liked and after about 10 minutes of trying to figure out what exact ring she wanted we found it and I was on my way to making my purchase. The gals at the jeweler were very friendly and helped me through all the confusion of buying a ring. With my purchase done I hopped back in my car and started my long drive home.

The drive home was interesting because I had no idea how I was going to propose. I was being more rushed than I normally liked to be, but rushed or not, this is what I had been intending to do for months so it wasn't like I was making a hasty decision. I just had no idea that today was going to be the day. When we got home I cleverly got the ring into the bedroom where it would sit for another half an hour. We ran off to get some food at BurgerVille (how romantic!) and got it to go. When we got back to the house I threw on some comfortable clothes and hid the ring into my pocket and went out to the living room to eat dinner while watching TV.

Out in the living room I asked her why she was upset that I didn't want to go see the ring and she pretty much admitted that she was starting to wonder if I was ever really going to get around to it. Now, I can't really blame her on this one. I've had months of talking about this and a handful of occasions to actually go out and buy a ring. I just take my own damn sweet time to get stuff done. So I played up the part of the, "Oh shit she is upset I better make try to make her happy."

I said, "You know I love you right?" She said, "Yeah." I then asked, "You know I want to be with you forever right?" She says, "Yeah."

Now at this point in the story, I need to mention two things. First thing was, the next day we were going to a wedding reception. The second thing was she had recently banged her knee against a cabinet and had been complaining about the pain. Each time she would complain I would nag her to take some Advil. Sorry for breaking into the story but those two things were very important to know for the finale.

I look at her and said, "Will you do me a favor tomorrow?" Her instant witty response was, "If you ask me to take Advil I swear to god!!!" I got off the couch and got on my knee and said, "When we go to the wedding reception will you go as my fiance?", and I whipped out the ring.

I think she was stunned for a split second then she said something to the effect of, "That's what you did when you left?!" I acknowledged, and that was pretty much that. There was some excitement and all around being happy and stuff. Then we finished our hamburgers.

The next day when I woke up I received a gift of my own... GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER! She bought me a diamond earring as an engagement present. It was my first diamond ever and means a lot to me.

That is my story. It's not spectacular and definitely not a movie-like proposal but it got the job done and that was the most important part. I'm off the market. We haven't set a date yet but that can all be done in the future. Anyway, some day in the future Tracey Morrow will be my bride.